{"id":23132,"date":"2018-10-08T07:07:09","date_gmt":"2018-10-08T14:07:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/?p=23132"},"modified":"2018-10-08T07:12:43","modified_gmt":"2018-10-08T14:12:43","slug":"doctor-lawyer-quitter-walk-bar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/all-mfn\/doctor-lawyer-quitter-walk-bar\/","title":{"rendered":"A Doctor, a Lawyer, and a Quitter Walk into a Bar\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

No, it\u2019s not the beginning of a joke. It\u2019s just what happens every time I go into a bar. I have a medical degree and a law degree\u2026and if there were a professional certification for quitting, I\u2019d not only have it, but I\u2019d display it in my office as proudly as I do the other two.<\/p>\n

I consider myself an\u00a0expert-level quitter<\/a>, and it\u2019s a distinction to which I firmly believe more people should\u00a0aspire.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"\"Why? Because\u00a0quitting is the most underrated tool for achieving success<\/strong>\u00a0not only in business, but in relationships, personal happiness and well-being. In fact, it\u2019s one of the\u00a0most underrated self-care tools out there.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The walls of Amazon\u2019s virtual bookstore are overflowing with self-help books telling us to live our best lives. But rarely do they address one of the main reasons that people get stuck in something less than their best life:\u00a0no one tells them how to get through the necessary quits to leave whatever isn\u2019t working.<\/strong>\u00a0They just tell you to transform your life and strive to make progress\u2026until one day you\u2019ve suddenly arrived at said ideal life.<\/p>\n

And quitting ain\u2019t easy.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

It\u2019s a process fraught with unwarranted stigma -partially thanks to unhelpful sayings like\u00a0\u201cquitters never win and winners never quit.\u201d\u00a0And if you can get past the stigma, you\u2019re then smacked in the face with many of the fears associated with quitting, like wondering if another opportunity will arise to replace whatever you\u2019re leaving, or wondering what people will think about your quitting, or fear that the new scenario you find post-quit won\u2019t truly be more fulfilling than the original one.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s enough to make someone just stay put. Stuck in the less-than-ideal.<\/p>\n

But it doesn\u2019t have to be.\u00a0Quitting can be your best friend.<\/strong>\u00a0But not just regular old quitting.\u00a0Strategic quitting.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now I could tell you theoretically about why strategic quitting is the greatest thing since avocado toast, but I think it will be slightly more effective if I show you what it looks like in the real world. Because at this point you may be (understandably) wondering how someone with both medical and law degrees has ever quit anything.<\/p>\n

I quit all the time.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Because what does it take to get through that much school and training? Time, money, and energy. How was I able to make sure I had enough of all three to get through? By quitting things that were draining my time\/money\/energy and focusing only on the things that served me.<\/p>\n

So what does it look like in action? Before medical school, I was a multimedia designer, but the sinking feeling I got while sitting in coding classes learning new programming languages told me this was not the field for me \u2014 so I quit. I started completely fresh and decided to try to get into medical school.<\/p>\n

\"\"And after I finished\u00a0medical school\u00a0and residency in family medicine, I finally got to my\u00a0sports medicine fellowship, as I had decided I wanted to be a sports doc. However, I got that same feeling when I was doing sports medicine \u2014 like something just wasn\u2019t right. Mostly I didn\u2019t like that the hours were somehow both 9 to 5 and nights and weekends, leaving little time for myself.<\/p>\n

So I quit. Again.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

At this point you may be thinking,\u00a0\u201cwhoa\u2026but\u00a0what about all of that time and money you wasted<\/a>\u00a0on medical school?\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Well that\u2019s where strategic quitting comes in. With regular quitting, I would have walked away from medicine altogether and tried some other career that may have had all the same attributes I disliked about medicine.<\/p>\n

But with strategic quitting, you\u00a0take stock of exactly what parts of a job or relationship, etc. aren\u2019t working for you, and quit only those\u2026<\/strong>and you stay vigilant not to get in new situations that have features that didn\u2019t work for you previously. And as long as you learned something from a past situation,\u00a0it wasn\u2019t a waste.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So I quit the long hours of sports medicine, and took a job where I make my own schedule. And in the future, you can bet that I won\u2019t be taking any new jobs that have night or weekend hours, because I learned from my previous experience. And as for the money and time I spent? Well having spent a lot of time or money on something that isn\u2019t working for you is a terrible reason to spend more time or money on it.\u00a0Sticking it out doesn\u2019t get you back your investment, it just gets you further from where you want to be.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now you may be plenty happy in your job or relationship, but what about some\u00a0smaller things\u00a0<\/strong>that may be stressing you out?<\/p>\n

\"\"Here\u2019s another real-life example. I finished yoga teacher training last year, and during my training I had an unlimited membership to the yoga studio. However, shortly after receiving my instructor certification, I started volunteering with a political campaign and didn\u2019t have time to go often enough to make the membership worth the money, which started to stress me out. Yes, you heard that right,\u00a0yoga was stressing me out.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So what did I do? Did I quit yoga? Obviously not! I just quit the unlimited membership and switched to a class card, thereby taking away all the guilt and stress I felt over not being able to make it to class as much as I needed to.<\/p>\n

Now look at your own life\u2026is there something that brings you stress or causes a sinking feeling in your stomach? Is your body subtly trying to tell you to make a change by giving you heartburn or keeping you awake at night?\u00a0As a doctor, I can tell you the effects of staying in something that is wrong for you are not minimal.<\/strong>\u00a0Stress is a leading health risk these days, and a major cause of stress is doing something that\u2019s not in line with your own personal good.<\/p>\n

So if your job doesn\u2019t light you up, or your relationship brings you anxiety, or your city just isn\u2019t working for you anymore, I urge you to make close friends with strategic quitting before your body stops whispering to you and starts yelling in the form of chronic pain, depression, anxiety, insomnia, and more.<\/p>\n

Strategic quitting is the self-care tool you never knew you needed, but that you\u2019ll never give up once you\u2019ve got it down.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

Dr. Lynn Marie Morski is a Quitting Evangelist. She helps people to and through their quits through her book \u201cQuitting by Design\u201d and her podcast Quit Happens, along with speaking and coaching. She is also a board-certified physician in family medicine and sports medicine, currently working at the Veterans Administration. In addition, she is an attorney and former adjunct law professor at Thomas Jefferson School of Law. Visit her website,\u00a0lynnmariemorski.com<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

No, it\u2019s not the beginning of a joke. It\u2019s just what happens every time I go into a bar. I have a medical degree and a law degree\u2026and if there were a professional certification for quitting, I\u2019d not only have it, but I\u2019d display it in my office as proudly as I do the other two. I consider myself an\u00a0expert-level quitter, and it\u2019s a distinction to which I firmly believe more people should\u00a0aspire. Why? Because\u00a0quitting is the most underrated tool for achieving success\u00a0not only in business, but in relationships, personal happiness and well-being. In fact, it\u2019s one of the\u00a0most underrated self-care tools out there. The walls of Amazon\u2019s virtual bookstore are overflowing with self-help books telling us to live our best lives. But rarely do they address one of the main reasons that people get stuck in something less than their best life:\u00a0no one tells them how to get through the necessary quits to leave whatever isn\u2019t working.\u00a0They just tell you to transform your life and strive to make progress\u2026until one day you\u2019ve suddenly arrived at said ideal life. And quitting ain\u2019t easy. It\u2019s a process fraught with unwarranted stigma -partially thanks to unhelpful sayings like\u00a0\u201cquitters never win and winners […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":259,"featured_media":23133,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[193,189],"class_list":["post-23132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-all-mfn","tag-healthy-aging","tag-stress-management"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/259"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23132"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23132\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23133"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medfitnetwork.org\/public\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}