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- Don\u2019t be a <\/span>Denier<\/b>. Deniers bury their fears so deeply that the fears often go unrealized, gaining an unknown power over the Denier. The danger is that at any moment, the Denier may be confronted by their formerly hidden fears, which seem to come out of nowhere, overwhelming the person\u2019s thoughts, decisions, and actions. Just because you\u00a0 deny them doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t exist.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
- Don\u2019t be a <\/span>Pretender<\/b>. Pretenders admit their fear, but rely on their ability to vanquish, destroy, eliminate, and ultimately control it. They live under the misguided belief that they can make fears disappear. The problem arises when the fear the Pretender thought was destroyed comes back with a vengeance at an inopportune time. As with the Denier, that re-emerged fear can affect thoughts, decisions, and actions, potentially\u00a0 placing the person on the pathway to unwittingly forfeit their dreams.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Once you acknowledge the existence of your fear and learn how to address it productively instead of fighting it, you reclaim some of your power over it.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
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<\/h4>\nStep Two: Find Your Fear\u2019s Origins\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/h4>\n
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- Determine where your fear originates and gain a deeper understanding of yourself. Knowing \u201cthe why\u201d is a power diffuser. Is your fear based in lack of self-worth, self-love, self-doubt, rejection, or feelings of failure, or trepidation of success? If so, where did\u00a0 this emotional trigger come from? Examine the negative assumptions you are making\u00a0 and determine their source. This could be a childhood experience, something someone\u00a0 said that you internalized, or some other event that created a negative self-assessment, which in turn is creating a fear. Knowledge is power, and it places you on the pathway toward healing.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
- Take action to heal your fears\u2019 origins. Healing comes through loving yourself and\u00a0 seeking a deeper and richer understand of your authentic core. In my book, <\/span>Yes! <\/i><\/i>Commit. Do. Live<\/i><\/a>, I explain, your \u201cpassions, loves, talents, gifts, and desires, along with\u00a0 your character values, all inform and empower you.\u201d These elements form your inner core. So let your fears reveal more of this inner core and show you something important <\/span>that you may not have recognized. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, a deep dive into your inner core could unearth your talent for storytelling, listening, and\u00a0 using empathy to connect with others. Nurturing those talents, which are all\u00a0 components of a great public speaker, would empower you to meet your public\u00a0 speaking fear. So, use that inner core power to meet and ultimately tame your fears.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Step Three: Focus on the Positive\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/h4>\n
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- First, ask yourself what opportunities and adventures are now presented due to the fear\u00a0 that has arisen. What possibilities for building new talents and skills are now open that were previously closed to you? Write them down and celebrate them as \u201cwhat can be,\u201d and then start envisioning them as \u201cwhat is.\u201d For example, that fear of public speaking could be preventing you from experiencing new opportunities in your career, family,\u00a0 and friendships that could change your life. By focusing on the positive aspects of what\u00a0 can be and the emotions that flow from that positive outlook, you shift your mindset away from negative thinking.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
- Second, remember that negative thinking is often at the core of our fears. Without facts or evidence, we allow negative thoughts to paralyze us and convince us that\u00a0 defeat\/disaster is inevitable. By choosing to focus on the positive outcomes we can gain from facing the challenge, we gain power over negative thinking.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
As a state and federal prosecutor, I was afraid at the beginning of every trial. What if I didn\u2019t succeed? What if I made a mistake? However, none of these fears were based on facts. By focusing on creating a positive outcome for the victim and empowering them through the trial\u00a0 process, I could move forward through my fear. According to Andrew Newberg, M.D., and Mark\u00a0 Robert Waldman in <\/span>Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversations Strategies to Build Trust, \u00a0Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intimacy<\/em>, a single positive or negative word can actually alter our brains. There is neurological power in positive thinking, so the time is now to live in the\u00a0 positive.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Step Four: Transform the Feelings\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/h4>\n
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- You can use your body\u2019s responses to gain more control of your fears. What happens to you when fear arises? According to <\/span>MedicalNewsToday<\/i>, for some people, their limbs shake, their breathing becomes shallow, their mouths get dry, and their hearts race. While these reactions may on the surface seem negative, those physical manifestations\u00a0 are tied to the excitement of the moment.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
- Once you are aware of your fear responses, redefine them. Remember, there is power in positive-thought realignment. When I left the practice of law to begin a singing career, during my early musical auditions, I was confronted with the physical manifestations of fear. I had a choice. I could allow those manifestations to derail my singing career, or I could retrain my brain and body to create a new understanding of\u00a0 what those manifestations represented. I chose the latter\u2014and you can, too. Here\u2019s\u00a0 how:\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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<\/p>\nRedefine those manifestations and repeat <\/b>the new definition continuously until they feel real.\u00a0 Repeatedly tell yourself this new positive understanding:\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
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- My <\/span>body\u2019s shake <\/b>is the energy surge that fuels my excitement.\u00a0 <\/span>\n
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- My shallow breathing <\/b>is my body\u2019s signal to slow down and take in rich oxygen.<\/li>\n
- My rapid heart rate <\/b>is my body\u2019s preparation on a cellular level to ready me to\u00a0 step into my excellence.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Visualize your success over your fear <\/b>and allow the positive emotions that flow from that\u00a0 success to flood your body, head to toe.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Find your calm and peace the \u201cDDB\u201d way\u2014engage in deep diaphragmatic breathing. <\/b>At each fearful moment, use the 5-5-5-5 breathing pattern: Inhale for a count of five, hold for five, exhale for five, and repeat for five. This practice allowed me to stay present and focus on the beauty of the moment.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Reset those feelings <\/b>further by recording your successes and focusing on each time you were able to feel the fear and do it anyway. I allowed every positive audition to reinforce my new positive understanding of my body\u2019s response to each exciting opportunity. This process of transference turns negative thinking positive.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Step 5: Look at Fear as Your Friend and Celebrate It!\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/h4>\n
Fear is an extension of ourselves. It moves us. It represents a chance for a beautiful life transition. Fear offers an opportunity for immense growth and introduces us to new and wonderful challenges. It can be a gateway to the most beautiful, exciting opportunities, helping\u00a0 you to unleash talents and unearth new passions.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
By taking the preceding steps, you are able to tame your fears. Remember, fear is not a villain, so there is no need for an epic battle. Instead, fear requires a relationship with yourself. It is a welcomed companion, a catalyst for change to constantly challenge your status quo. So, the next time you feel fear, ask, \u201cWhat opportunity lies on the other side?\u201d Challenge yourself to live through it. Do what makes you shake! Do what makes you shy away! It may not\u00a0 be easy, but it\u2019s essential for continued breakthrough as you journey to your highest state of\u00a0 excellence.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
When you\u2019re willing to feel the fear and move forward anyway, you position yourself to truly\u00a0 write your story, live your purpose, elevate your thoughts, visualize your success, and live a life\u00a0 without regret and with passion, laughter, self-determination, and endless optimism.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Join Lisa for her webinar, How to Take Your Fears from For to Friend<\/a><\/strong><\/h4>\n
- My rapid heart rate <\/b>is my body\u2019s preparation on a cellular level to ready me to\u00a0 step into my excellence.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
- My shallow breathing <\/b>is my body\u2019s signal to slow down and take in rich oxygen.<\/li>\n
- Once you are aware of your fear responses, redefine them. Remember, there is power in positive-thought realignment. When I left the practice of law to begin a singing career, during my early musical auditions, I was confronted with the physical manifestations of fear. I had a choice. I could allow those manifestations to derail my singing career, or I could retrain my brain and body to create a new understanding of\u00a0 what those manifestations represented. I chose the latter\u2014and you can, too. Here\u2019s\u00a0 how:\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
- Second, remember that negative thinking is often at the core of our fears. Without facts or evidence, we allow negative thoughts to paralyze us and convince us that\u00a0 defeat\/disaster is inevitable. By choosing to focus on the positive outcomes we can gain from facing the challenge, we gain power over negative thinking.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
- Take action to heal your fears\u2019 origins. Healing comes through loving yourself and\u00a0 seeking a deeper and richer understand of your authentic core. In my book, <\/span>Yes! <\/i><\/i>Commit. Do. Live<\/i><\/a>, I explain, your \u201cpassions, loves, talents, gifts, and desires, along with\u00a0 your character values, all inform and empower you.\u201d These elements form your inner core. So let your fears reveal more of this inner core and show you something important <\/span>that you may not have recognized. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, a deep dive into your inner core could unearth your talent for storytelling, listening, and\u00a0 using empathy to connect with others. Nurturing those talents, which are all\u00a0 components of a great public speaker, would empower you to meet your public\u00a0 speaking fear. So, use that inner core power to meet and ultimately tame your fears.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
- Don\u2019t be a <\/span>Pretender<\/b>. Pretenders admit their fear, but rely on their ability to vanquish, destroy, eliminate, and ultimately control it. They live under the misguided belief that they can make fears disappear. The problem arises when the fear the Pretender thought was destroyed comes back with a vengeance at an inopportune time. As with the Denier, that re-emerged fear can affect thoughts, decisions, and actions, potentially\u00a0 placing the person on the pathway to unwittingly forfeit their dreams.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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