Let’s discuss the relationship between narcissism and the fitness world and examine why those working in this demographic need to identify and be aware of narcissistic behaviors, not only in themselves but others.
Some may assume that one who chooses a career where working on your physique and “looking the part” is narcissistic in itself. However most instructors and trainers that I know are not competing with anyone but themselves; in addition, they have an inherent desire to bring out the very best in their clients. Narcissists NEVER want the best for others! The covert narcissist is jealous and is not happy when others succeed! Whereby those in the fitness industry are THRILLED to watch their clients meet their goals!
Instructors DO place a lot of emphasis on their physique, it can be said that their physique and appearance “sells itself.” Let’s be honest here if you were looking to take a class, would you prefer an instructor who was in shape? Or one who did not physically appear to be in shape? Most people would ABSOLUTELY opt for an instructor who embodied a healthy physique!
I said what I said so don’t shoot the messenger. There lies the double-edged sword and stigma…. Are instructors and trainers narcissistic because they are focused on their physique for a living or are they caring individuals who truly are in it to help others achieve their goals?
The answer is that they are BOTH! In ANY profession, there are those who are severe on the narcissistic spectrum and others who fall into the range of healthy narcissistic traits. Certain professions, like law enforcement, are said to draw narcissists to them because of the perception of having power. While this may be true, I have worked with some very kind and authentic individuals in law enforcement over the course of my career.
So, what can one do if you believe you have encountered a personality disordered individual possessing narcissistic traits that appear to be far along on the spectrum? For starters, TALK with someone, preferably someone like a therapist, who can provide education and insight into the disorder and one who has a niche area specializing in narcissistic abuse. In addition, setting firm boundaries, minimizing contact with the individual(s) and learning techniques such as “grey rocking” can be very helpful, especially if you are being GASLIT.
Find people who are authentic and surround yourself with them. Create distance when possible. If you feel you need additional support, find a mental health provider who is experienced in personality disorders, emotionally immature personality types and narcissism/narcissistic abuse.
As a fitness professional, education is power when it comes to best helping yourself and your clients live a happier and healthier life.
Co-written by Lori Ann Roland, LPC, LCADC and Christine Conti, M.Ed
Lori is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Clinical Alcohol & Drug Counselor with over 20 years in the field specializing in narcissistic abuse, trauma and addictions. Find tons of free resources about all aspects of mental health on her website, loriannroland.com.
Christine is an international fitness educator, chronic disease specialist and IDEA World 2023 Fitness Professional of the Year. She is the CEO of FITFIXNOW, founder of CONTI Fitness, and COO of Reinventing the Woman International. She is a best-selling author, podcaster, business coach, 4x IRONMAN and serves as a triathlon guide for the Special Olympics Visit her website, ContiFit.com
